What Can Mindfulness Teach You About Being A Better Manager?

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What Can Mindfulness Teach You About Being More Present — and a Better Manager?

by Daniel Rodriguez

As anyone working at a high-growth startup can tell you, things get very hectic and stressful very easily.  Motivating a ten person team and also having a life of my own presents itself as a single gigantic challenge.  Until recently, an acquaintance or social media follower would view my life as successful, but there was one huge problem: I was anxious, stressed out and not all that happy.  Thankfully, over the past year I’ve taken a new approach to life that involves being mindfully aware, or “present,” that has made me a better manager and partner in quantifiable ways.  

First, I should make a slightly embarrassing admission: much of my anxiety boiled down to FOMO (fear of missing out).  I felt anxious on a daily basis about missing out on, well, everything that it seemed others were doing that I wasn’t.  Faster revenue growth (because 150% isn’t enough).  Boozy brunches.  Unicorn valuations.  Skyrocketing personal wealth with minimal work experience.  Bottle service.  Personal training sessions.  One Direction hair.  

I looked at the world and saw what I didn’t have and felt bummed out and a little bitter.  And how did I overcome that feeling?  I got intense, took control and lived on the edge of a stress-induced breakdown, which resulted in the occasional snippy comment, the short-term desire for a “quick win” in an argument with my wife, or a passive aggressive comment to a subordinate.

Basically, I was taking my unhappiness out on those around me and being a lot less of the person that I wanted to be.

So I started searching to see if there was anyone else in the world who was wrestling with the guilt of being someone with so much yet fighting bouts of unhappiness that came in waves every few months.

And it turns out that a TON of people have felt this way—not just startup VPs, or Americans, or millennials, but human beings for hundreds of years.  The introduction in the book Mindfulness in Plain English crystalizes this common anxiety and convinced me that I could do something about it.

To combat my anxiety and unhappiness, I started meditating.  It has worked by making me be more “in the present” (more on that phrase a bit later).

I was an economics major in college, so the way that I measure the success of mindfulness is by the increase in positive feelings (feeling happy more often) and decrease of negative emotions (feeling anxious less often).  

Let’s tackle the biggest problem first: the anxiety that makes you feel unhappy.  Every single time that I feel anxious I am thinking about something in the future, meaning that I am not in the present.  Things like hiring faster (we MUST go FASTER!), what our go-to-market strategy will look like in 6 months and getting industry recognition are all thoughts about the future.  By meditating, I’m able to steer myself away from dwelling on those thoughts so that when they enter my mind, I gently push them aside.  The result: so much less anxiety about the future!

Another big contributor to unhappiness is feeling annoyed by something difficult to avoid: other people.  This is a life lesson and also a practical management one: it’s worth it to try to see things through someone else’s perspective.  By practicing empathy you have a much better chance of going through life feeling happy rather than crushed by the boredom of standing in lines or dealing with a coworker’s nagging cough.  David Foster Wallace’s This is Water captures the necessity of this mentality perfectly: be present and take a second to see the good in a situation or else you’ll be mired in petty annoyances and the feeling of everyone being in your way (especially during the holiday season!).  

Seeing the good in others rather than getting annoyed by them has been the biggest boon to me experiencing more positive moments.  Ellen Langer notes this in her podcast interview on the Science of Mindfulness as seeing someone not as gullible but rather as trusting, not as impulsive but as spontaneous.  Sitting in an open work environment near others and managing different personalities has its inherent challenges, so why make it more difficult by not finding things to enjoy about those around you?  And in case you think that the idea of mindfulness and being present is only a Buddhist philosophy that requires time spent meditating, Langer’s research shows that being mindful is more about actively focusing on the here and now (rather than meditating to get you ready to be present).  

The irony of FOMO is that by worrying so much about missing out you actually miss out.  You miss the joy in seeing a new hire grow and gain their own recognition, the value in not knowing where your company will be in 2 years but knowing that today, in this place, is a ton of fun.  You also miss the beauty that can be found in watching leaves fall from the trees, or the colors in a sunset or the way your kid’s voice sounds when they sing Doc McStuffins songs.  This is the first year of my life that hasn’t flown by—it’s been rich with work and life moments because I’ve been here, in the present, much more often.

It’s a happier place and I hope that those that I get to meet enjoy it with me.

This post was originally published here December 2015.  

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Is Your Yoga Practice a Colonialistic Misrendering?

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Is Your Yoga Practice an Imperialist Appropriation of Indian Culture?

By Michael Sowden 

Arguments are simmering in America that when Westerners practice yoga and meditation they are engaged in a neo-colonialist appropriation of an ancient heritage.  Proponents of this argument will tell you that the statue of the Buddha or Shiva on your mantelpiece constitutes the imperialist theft of another culture's sacred imagery.  Is this what you are doing when you bend in surya namaskar or chant OM before yoga class--exploiting another culture?

I've been practicing and teaching yoga and meditation most of my life and want to respond to this argument.

It's an important question.  We Americans are wildly privileged.  If you have traveled in India or to other developing countries, you know how rich and privileged we are.  It's important to be mindful about situations in which our actions might derive from or be taking advantage of that privilege.

Ugly Colonialist:
"I've got your spiritual trinket right here!
I paid cold hard cash for this item."

The West has a history of colonizing other countries and then romanticizing and appropriating aspects of their heritage.  So an American sports team calls itself the "Washington Redskins." Madonna is blasted by cultural critic bell hooks for appropriating hip-hop music.  A white rancher, a descendent of those who "won the West," hangs a Native-American dream-catcher from his rear-view mirror.    

We've all encountered people who decorate their homes with symbols and artifacts from cultures they know little or nothing about.  And how many Western "teachers" have taken ancient Eastern techniques and turned them into money-making gimmicks?  I'm thinking of expensive seminars and retreats by self-help gurus and corporate trainers who charge a mint for sharing practices passed down for centuries in India or Tibet free of charge.  In Salt Lake City, there was a teacher who ran a "very special retreat" called the "5-5-50." Five days.  Five people.  Fifty-thousand dollars.

"Hey there, handsome.
I'm making a fortune off these posture classes,
wanna have some fun?"

Complicating the problem is the fact that many yoga teachers begin teaching yoga without really understanding the heart of the yogic path.  You can see Hindu symbols displayed backwards in yoga studios or find that what you thought was going to be yoga is really aerobics with stretching.  A majority of Americans still may not realize that "yoga" is an ancient physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual way of life, of which asanas, the physical postures, are only one part.  In Ashtanga, or Raja Yoga, asanas are one limb of an eight-limb system.  The other limbs are directed toward spiritual liberation.

In addition, the very heart of yoga will get lost if we stereotype the American yogi as a svelte, young, upper-middle class white woman doing Warrior II on the cover of Yoga Journal.  A fascinating website, "De-Colonizing Yoga," focuses on this latter issue and on making yoga more available to people of color.  An Atlantic Monthly essay, "Why Is Your Yoga Class So White," makes the same point.  

But here are some of the reasons I think the argument about imperialist appropriation is misplaced and an overreaction.

I was trained as a yoga teacher in the 1970s by sanyassis (monks) sent to the United States by a tantric yoga guru in Bengal.  Usually, we think of the colonial power being the one sending missionaries to the colonized country to convert the heathens.  But the twentieth century saw a huge number of Hindu and yogic teachers coming to the US.  Vivekananda was the first--arriving in 1893 for the Chicago World Parliament of Religions.  The great yoga teacher Paramahansa Yogananda was next.  He arrived in the US in the 1920s and became a national sensation.  His book, Autobiography of a Yogi, transformed many lives, including my own.  Later came Maharishi Mahesh Yogi, Swami Satchidananda, Swami Muktananda, Meher Baba, B. K. S. Iyengar, Yogi Bhajan.  And Amma, Amritanandamayi Ma, still visits regularly to share her life-changing darsan, hugging thousands of Americans. 

None of them worried about their teachings being "appropriated" by Westerners.  They shared them freely.   Because the teachings transform lives, lead to liberation, and can change the world.

"Hey!  I'm a kitty, not a peacock!"

Hatha yoga, the physical side of yoga practiced in most American yoga studios, is already a multicultural phenomenon.  A yogi named Krishnamacharya in Mysore, the teacher of famous B. K. S. Iyengar, developed modern hatha yoga by combining ancient yogic traditions with late 19th-century Western gymnastic and body-building systems.  Many of the most popular yoga series like sun salutations are relatively recent inventions, existing nowhere in the ancient yogic texts like Patanjali's Yoga Sutras.  The ancient texts are primarily concerned with spiritual liberation.  Asanas are just one part of a complete holistic system.  

Many, many people in the West are hungry for spiritual transformation.  Yoga and meditation are priceless gifts India has given the world, gifts that are transforming global human consciousness.  Just this year Indian Prime Minister Modi sponsored the United Nations' adoption of "International Yoga Day."

A true guru will tell you that yoga transcends nations, borders, and boundaries.  Brahman, the term in yoga philosophy for Absolute Reality, the Divine Consciousness, encompasses the entire universe.  It exists for all.  No one owns it.  No one can "appropriate" it.  Brahman is not in danger of being limited or tarnished by the ignorant West. 

When traditions migrate to other cultures, they evolve.  When Buddhism went to China, it met Taoism.  From this meeting, Zen was born--hardly something to lament.  When Indian Tantra went to Tibet, Vajrarana, or Tibetan Buddhism, was born.  This new tradition gave the world the Dalai Lama.  Yoga will be transformed by coming to the West.  It already has been.  The important thing is to be part of its flowering, not its degradation.

If your goal is to offer the "5-5-50," become a rich New Age guru, you may be betraying the spirit of yoga.  But if you approach this great tradition with humility and reverence and a desire to share what you have discovered, then you'll honor the heart of the path.

A recent post on a Kundalini Yoga Facebook page said that the first requirement of being a yoga teacher is to realize that you are nothing.  Why?  Because in the openness of that humility and emptiness of self, something priceless can be born.

So let's all of us yogis bow to this ancient spiritual tradition of India, learn and teach all the limbs of yoga, and in our practice and in our hearts hold a deep sense of gratitude for this gift that our spiritual Mother, Mata India, has bestowed upon the world.

Jai Guru!

Michael  

This post was originally published on huffingtonpost.com November 2015.  

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